How to approach a Broken Heart

All of us would have been hurt many times in our life. When we are hurt by the people whom we love, our heart breaks into tiny little pieces. Let’s say your best friend turned out to be some jerk who made horrific stories about you behind your back or your partner cheated on you or your friends avoids you for some reason or you lost your loved one to cancer. Whatsoever the situation is, a broken heart is hard to mend. When we are hurt, grief overwhelms us and we won’t be our normal self or in the right senses. Each one of us handles grief/ hurt differently. Some just cry their heart out, some tends to badmouth the people who caused the hurt or curse them, some act as though it has not affected them and they have moved on, some might get suicidal and so on.

What to do with a broken heart? How to handle it?

Let us dive into the treasure book for clues…

OPENING THE TREASURE BOOK

Sorrow, grief or hurt is the reason for a broken heart. It was not God’s, plan to bring these into this world. But like every other negativity, these too entered the world due to sin – the disobedience of mankind. In fact, the whole course of the world changed because of Sin and sorrow, pain and hurt became a part of this world that we live. Even a new born baby enters this world crying and not smiling. This is the course of the world. The life in this world is not a bed of roses. We need to first accept this fact and come to terms with it. In our life on earth, everyone has to go through hurt, sorrow and pain for sure, at some point or other in their life. And these result in a broken heart.

And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away

Revelation 21:4

However, in heaven things are completely different. There are no deaths, hurt or sorrow or crying. So no broken hearts in heaven. This was God’s plan for the Earth as well, however sin ruined it all. After Jesus’s second coming, the order of things in the world will change and will be as per God’s initial plan for the world – just like heaven.

Sorrow / grief and hurt causes a broken heart. These were not in God’s plan for the world, but they entered the world because of Sin and is now an integral part of the world that we live in.

I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the Lord In the land of the living. Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!

Psalms 27:13-14

The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

Psalms 34:18

It is easy to lose heart & hope when you are sorrowful or with a broken heart. But remember, the God that we serve is a good God who wants the best for us. He doesn’t like to see us being sorrowful or filled with grief or with a broken heart. With His help, we will get through it. The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart. Just trust God and wait on Him. He will strengthen us for He is faithful and keeps His word.

A woman, when she is in labor, has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world.

John 16:21

For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for life; Weeping may endure for a night, But joy  comes in the morning.

Psalms 30:5

We also need to understand that the sorrow that we face is only momentary. It will be only for a short period of time. Joy and rejoicing follows it. It is like a mother who goes into labor to bring a new life. The hour of labor is sorrowful for her but the instant she sees her baby, all her sorrow and agony is long forgotten. Similar is the case of sorrow and hurt. The sorrow is short lived and the joy that comes after helps us forget all about the sorrow.

Jesus was hurt by the people around Him. His disciple in the closer circle – Peter, denied Him. Judas betrayed him for 30 pieces of silver.

He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.

Isaiah 53:3

He was despised and rejected by men. The people, His own creation crucified Him for no crime of His. He was a man of sorrow and grief. But His eyes was fixed on the greater glory. Fix your eyes on the greater things ahead of you and not on the momentary sorrow that will soon pass.

Remember, God is near to those who have a broken heart. Trust Him and wait on Him to strengthen You. With God by your side, weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. Fix your eyes on the greater things ahead of you and not on the momentary sorrow that will soon pass.

Hannah ( 1 samuel 1)

There was a man named Elkanah who had two wives Hannah and Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none. They went yearly to worship and sacrifice to the Lord in Shiloh. And whenever the time came for Elkanah to make an offering, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he would give a double portion, for he loved Hannah, although the Lord had closed her womb. But Peninnah provoked Hannah severely and made her miserable because she did not have children. Year after year this happened and Hannah would weep and not eat.

Hannah was hurt by her husband’s other wife for not having children. Every year at the time of rejoicing, the other wife would bring up the subject and make Hannah miserable such that she neither got to enjoy the time with her husband nor enjoy the food given by her husband. The way she handled this grief year after year was by weeping and not eating even though she got a double portion of the meat. But weeping and not eating did not solve her problem of getting hurt. It just repeated yeah after year. One such year, the same thing happened and she wept. But this time she wept before the Lord. She poured out her heart to God and after that she was not sorrowful anymore but ate the food and went back home happy. That was the last time she cried about this issue. The next time she came to Shiloh, she had her son Samuel with her. The Lord put a full stop to the condition that broke her heart and made her miserable .

Jabez (1 Chronicles 4:10)

There was a man named Jabez. His mother called him Jabez, saying, “Because I bore him in pain.” The meaning of his name was ” He will cause PAIN” Imagine having such an awful name. Each time someone calls him, it is like cursing and saying “You are a pain for everyone around you”. It would have been difficult for him growing up being mocked by everyone around him. He would have been hurt many times. People would have hurled insults at him and would have called him names. His heart was broken because of his name. He called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me and indeed enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” He poured out his heart before God and God granted him what he requested. The Lord put a stop to the condition that broke his heart and blessed him such a way that he ended up being more honorable than all his brothers. The Lord mend his broken heart.

When you pour your heart out to God, He first operates on the condition that causes the broken heart. He puts a full stop to the cause and blesses you so that it never breaks your heart again. Then he mends your broken heart. Only God and God alone can mend a broken heart. No one or nothing else can.

When in grief or sorrow or hurt, pour out your heart to God. He will put a full stop to the cause that breaks your heart and brings a permanent solution to the cause of the heart break and sorrow. He then mends your heart.

Treasures uncovered

Prayer:

Father, we thank you for being with us through our heart breaks. We trust you and wait on you. Help us to pour our hearts to you in times of distress. Thank you for putting a full stop to the cause that breaks our heart and thank you for providing a permanent solution. We thank you for mending our broken hearts. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

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